What you don’t see in this picture is Lucy's absolute adoration for her older brother. She is his ultimate shadow. She fears nothing with him around and is willing to try about anything to get his approval. Without even knowing it he is teaching and leading her along the way. Just by default of birth order he is expected to be the leader within our group of three. What a privilege and huge responsibility that is for him. He will be able to learn how to help, guide, and even influence his younger siblings. His leadership skills will be tested and molded for years to come.
Lucy will also get that opportunity to lead her little brother one day. I suspect Anthony will look up to both her and Vince one day and Lucy will get her time to learn how to be a leader within our household. She will guide her little brother (probably with LOTS of authority) and will learn how to use her voice and actions to impact his life in a positive way as well.
That leads me to ponder (and worry a bit) about Anthony. What a challenge it will be to ensure he is getting time to develop his leadership skills. What a challenge it will be to make sure I do not “do everything” for him because he is the “baby” of the family! He will need to learn just like them how to help, guide, and lead others and it will be my job to make sure he is given that opportunity. I know the research and I know that his first five years are PIVITOL in developing his personality. I want nothing more for my children than for them to have a sense of self-worth and for them to find their voice to be leaders in this world.
There are many reasons I love TLC but primarily it is because I KNOW that every teacher in this building loves children and are dedicated to helping each child find their voice in order for them to internalize their self-worth. For that reason, I don’t have to worry so much that I will drop the ball. I know that I will “baby” my little man but thankfully I have a place where the teachers will remind me to not “cheat” him out of being able to experience first hand what leadership, independence, and accomplishment feel like!